I'm not arguing that everybody should go poly, or that it's best for everybody. I'm arguing: 1-Monog ppl have lots of severe misconceptions about polyamory 2-Monogamy is in the water supply; a lot of people don't 'actually' have a poly option or know they'd be happier poly
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And so a lot of people who might have really thrived in polyamorous relationships, ever actually get the chance. They've only ever gotten heavy cultural messaging that monogamy is the *only way to be*, and they go get into monog relationships and feel shitty when it doesn't work.
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But they can't go poly - maybe they've got a full life developed now, maybe they don't know any other poly people (because those other ppl are also ashamed/don't know they're poly). Maybe they have zero skills, framework, or examples of how poly could even work.
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This was true for me! Early on, I "was poly" in the sense that it was right for me (e.g., my monog boyfriend sexted with someoene else and I tried to 'make' myself feel jealous cause I thought i should), but had no idea how to do poly cause i hadn't heard of it.
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polyamory is analagous in some ways to homosexuality back in the day. "You know you could leave your wife and be with another guy?" "what.. no there's like a billion reasons i can't do that. I'm not 'really gay'. And nobody would understand, i can't get married, what about kids?"
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It’s shamed for a reason. It’s harmful to society. Woman only want higher class men and that leaves a class of males that ends up revolting and destabilizes society.
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Very true. I actually have a bet outstanding at ten to three against that there will not be a single poly-positive romcom released by late 2025
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I have started to watch Black Sails, and at the beginning of season 2 I'm starting to think that Ms Barlow and her late husband are written as poly.
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