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Aella
@Aella_Girl
it's kinda ironic that there's such a vibrant movement to let women have control over their own sexuality, yet we still have laws that would jail me for having sex if I happened to get money for it. We only mean "control over your own body" if it's socially approved control.
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Boss Butch
@butchstudies
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@Aella_Girl
Serious question though: what do we do about the rampant abuse and sex trafficking? And all those who don't actually want to have sex, they just really need the money, no matter how much it damages them psychologically? I let myself just ignore them for far too long...
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@butchstudies
Working in a factory damaged me psychologically way more than sex work Also sex trafficking numbers are intensely unreliable if you look at the sources Decriminalizing sex work would let workers actually go get police help if they needed it.
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Boss Butch
@butchstudies
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@Aella_Girl
But that's your experience. That doesn't erase all those who were deeply damaged by sex work, including many, many people I love. Including me. I agree about decriminalization, but that doesn't fix the problem, and we can't just keep pretending it doesn't exist.
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Boss Butch
@butchstudies
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@Aella_Girl
I don't really want to talk about it. But I was in the industry for almost a decade. I watched a lot of friends slowly self-destruct, some of them to death, before I started acknowledging the damage.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@butchstudies
I've been in it for a decade and haven't seen this. There's definitely cons, I'm not pretending that everyone likes it or doesn't regret it, but me and all my ppl seem a different sphere than you and all your ppl. I have, however, seen women rewrite their memories out of shame
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
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@butchstudies
Had a friend who I did sex work with for a while, and after she stopped she viewed it as exploitative and bad. But I was there with her! I went through the same stuff she did and it doesn't seem true. Imo she rewrote her memories because she was shamed real hard after she left.
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Boss Butch
@butchstudies
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@Aella_Girl
And in my experience, you can't see the damage a cult does to you until you've gotten out of it. As soon as I left the industry, I didn't need the mental blinders anymore, and I was SHOCKED as I realized all the stuff that I just hadn't been seeing or paying any attention to. 😳
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