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Often people ask me "how do you deal with jealousy in polyamory?" When I get jealous, I meditate on the feeling. What am I afraid of? It's usually stuff like "I'm afraid he'll like her better than me" or "I'm afraid he'll leave me for her". 1/7

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Why would you be in a polygamous relationship if there's feelings of jealousy involved?

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There's often feelings of jealousy in monog relationships too, why would people get into a relationship if there's any bad feelings involved?

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I wasted over 8 years on a monog relationship with assorted "bad feelings" that I tried to logic out of, so the answer to that I suppose is "idealism" I don't feel jealousy, so I guess I don't get why someone who does would intentionally enter a relationship that inspired it

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Often this isn't how it goes down. The worst jealousy I felt wasn't until 3 months into our relationship, and lasted off and on until about 9 months in, after which it was golden. And imo getting through that jealousy was worth it and helped me become more stable.

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Glad it went away! Imo if you're forever trying to logic away negative emotions in a relationship, it's unsustainable

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Def. For me, jealousy is hands down worth the benefit I get from learning how to hold my partner while simultaneously letting them go

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Letting them go? I guess I don't know what you mean by that

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Like, be in full emotional contact with the pain of losing them, at all times. Sorta like how my life feels best lived when I am constantly brushing up against the wall of death, and my body radiates with subconscious pain and gratitude

6:40 AM · Feb 5, 2021

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