Often people ask me "how do you deal with jealousy in polyamory?" When I get jealous, I meditate on the feeling. What am I afraid of? It's usually stuff like "I'm afraid he'll like her better than me" or "I'm afraid he'll leave me for her". 1/7
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This is basically how it works for friendships. Sometimes, romantic relationships have more practical things built onto them, like children or shared finances. What about that - you can't just "let people leave" if you have children at stake! Isn't jealousy good, then? 6/7
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Almost but not quite. If you have a good friend with whom you build a company, would you argue jealousy is good? Probably not, that seems like a weird frame. You'd definitely need commitment, but the commitment is *for the company*, not for the friendship. 7/7
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P.S. I've dated as a poly person for a decade, and only once have I had a poly partner leave me for another partner, which really sucked but in hindsight was a good thing. Nearly all my other breakups were due to other, non-poly issues.
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