Does a bunch of casual sex have any damaging emotional effects? For me, a slut who's slept with probably more people than your own mother, the answer is not really? There are some effects! For example, I place much more importance on sexual compatibility than I used to. 1/
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The excited tingle around a new sexual partner has decreased, but not always and not as much as you might think - it varies a lot per person, and the tingle levels changed way more between partners 1 and 5 than it did partners 5 and 50. 2/
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Am I getting crazier in bed in a desperate search of novelty? ...kinda? But also not? It's hard to differentiate this from just passage of time, and I've been gotten more vanilla in some areas, but I actually think that I've been more able to pursue things I've always wanted 3/
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What about emotional pair bonding? This hasnt been affected at all, but one possible downside is that I no longer feel like trying to force sexual compatibility with a partner I'm pair bonded with. My standards aren't crazy narrow, I just def want someone who's onto what I'm into
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But I don't feel like... Listless dissatisfaction, I don't feel emotionally damaged in any particular way. I don't feel bad about myself for my past sluttiness, except sometimes when the world yells at me for it. I dont regret sleeping with anybody except one dude 4/
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Can it be bad for other people? Sure, yes. I think of this as similar to "doing drugs" 30 years ago - there's a ton of hysteria and misinformation from people who've never or barely tried it, I'm glad it's now more normal, but also occasionally doing drugs fucks people up. 5/
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I think the answer isn't to try to reintroduce a stigma about drug use, it's to educate people about the risks, let people know what warning signs are, and help them have a good time. Because drugs are often very awesome and radically improved my life. Same with casual sex!
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I mean, a stigma is just a societal heuristic warning about risk, so you don't have to be exposed to that risk to learn about it
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It's really uncalibrated. I remember thinking drugs were at a risk level that wasn't nuanced or accurate, when I was growing up.
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Stigmas don't exist for the tail cases at either end of the distribution (of emotional responses to much, many sex), they exist for for the 90+% in the first two SDs of emotional response on either side of the mean. The tail cases will...probably be fine, as you are
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