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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Does a bunch of casual sex have any damaging emotional effects? For me, a slut who's slept with probably more people than your own mother, the answer is not really? There are some effects! For example, I place much more importance on sexual compatibility than I used to. 1/
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@Aella_Girl
The excited tingle around a new sexual partner has decreased, but not always and not as much as you might think - it varies a lot per person, and the tingle levels changed way more between partners 1 and 5 than it did partners 5 and 50. 2/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Am I getting crazier in bed in a desperate search of novelty? ...kinda? But also not? It's hard to differentiate this from just passage of time, and I've been gotten more vanilla in some areas, but I actually think that I've been more able to pursue things I've always wanted 3/
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@Aella_Girl
What about emotional pair bonding? This hasnt been affected at all, but one possible downside is that I no longer feel like trying to force sexual compatibility with a partner I'm pair bonded with. My standards aren't crazy narrow, I just def want someone who's onto what I'm into
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@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
But I don't feel like... Listless dissatisfaction, I don't feel emotionally damaged in any particular way. I don't feel bad about myself for my past sluttiness, except sometimes when the world yells at me for it. I dont regret sleeping with anybody except one dude 4/
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@Aella_Girl
Can it be bad for other people? Sure, yes. I think of this as similar to "doing drugs" 30 years ago - there's a ton of hysteria and misinformation from people who've never or barely tried it, I'm glad it's now more normal, but also occasionally doing drugs fucks people up. 5/
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@Aella_Girl
I think the answer isn't to try to reintroduce a stigma about drug use, it's to educate people about the risks, let people know what warning signs are, and help them have a good time. Because drugs are often very awesome and radically improved my life. Same with casual sex!
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@guituary
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@Aella_Girl
Any damage (if extant) to your ability to form stable long term relationships wouldn't be detectable based on your subjective experience of mental state, the evidence would be in the success or failure of attempts to form sustain quality stable long term relationships.
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