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I suspect this might come from like... A poor understanding of what "fuck whoever, whenever" actually looks like. The ability to do so doesn't mean people actually do so, and the people who don't want it are less likely to do it. But some people actually do want it.

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I've probably had sex with... More people than anybody responding to you (200 people? Ish?), and the idea that this has damaged my ability for romantic intimacy feels extremely untrue. It has changed some things sure, but it's way more nuanced than that.

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Basically I'm saying your description of what happens after a bunch of rando sex reminds me of my parents telling you what'll happen if you try drugs. It's technically true in some situations but based more out of vague fear and misses a ton of upside

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This is an interesting comment. Why do you think this narrative is so prevalent. In fact I’d say I have fuzzy intuition that it’s true. But I’m interested in the other side. What are the upsides and downsides according to you?

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often conservative narratives are outdated, as in they were really useful during a period of time, but the circumstances changed and the conservative intuitions did not. It's not that the intuitions are wrong, it's that they're wrong for the environment they're in

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Will make top level tweet about the misconceptions in a bit

6:17 PM · Jan 23, 2021