i think it's near-impossible to find a man (and only slightly less impossible to find a woman) who will be satisfied with sexual exclusivity in a monogamous relationship for the rest of their life.
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I think it's nearly impossible to find a man or woman who *wants* to deal with the kind of sleep disruption that a newborn typically brings, but plenty of people want large families, and so they make the tradeoff, sometimes for many years.
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If you ask "wouldn't you prefer your baby never cry at night?" the answer might be yes, but that doesn't imply a similar answer to "wouldn't you prefer not to have a baby?" Likewise, sometimes wanting sex with others doesn't necessarily mean wanting a nonexclusive relationship.
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I think most people conflate categories here; college debt isn't an inherent part of education, and likewise I think forbidding your partner from having sex with others isn't an inherent part of commitment.
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I do think that some people really do want very specifically to prevent their partner from having sexual intimacy with anyone else, and then to be fair, they agree to the same stipulations for themselves.
I think a ton of ppl get into monogamy as a proxy for commitment, without thinking it through. But also, as with college, there are some instances in which this arrangement does actually make sense for you even if you go into it fully aware.
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If you're a household with a median income, children (especially without the benefit of extended family/other caregivers), etc., the time/resource cost of multiple partners is high, and very often intolerably high if there is any possibility that other partners can fall pregnant.
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