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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Monogamy-by-default sounds like college-by-default. I'm like hey, isn't it weird you enter this life plan that is meant to help but also you're now in a lot of debt... Aren't there actual serious downsides we're sort of pretending are normal? I get that college is helpful, but...
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
College has a big sting in it that ruins lives in a wide variety of ways, and we tend to brush it aside. When I say ppl aren't satisfied with sexual exclusivity in monogamy, it's like saying people are unsatisfied with college debt, even if they definitely wanted college.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
Cause obviously long term monogamy isn't exactly naturally aligned with the needs of a lot of people in it. By the time men are old, 25% report actually cheating on their wives. Something in our institution of marriage is deeply broken, it's not serving a huge chunk of people.
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StuffedCrustInTokyo
@peaceseazen
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@Aella_Girl
But at the same time is the cohesive family unit not the best way to raise a successful child? I guess if you don't plan to have children you don't have to think about whether it would help or hinder a child's future
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Aapje
@NotoriousAapje
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@Aella_Girl
Is that because the poly families you know consist of rich, well-educated people who would have it easier anyway, or would poly families actually work for anyone?
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