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Monogamy-by-default sounds like college-by-default. I'm like hey, isn't it weird you enter this life plan that is meant to help but also you're now in a lot of debt... Aren't there actual serious downsides we're sort of pretending are normal? I get that college is helpful, but...

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Monogamy has more of a basis in human nature than college attendance. It’s a social institution that has, by now, proven its utility as a human practice (college too, but it’s a different kettle). Whatever downsides might exist, monogamy can certainly be said to be normal atp.

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Monogamy as the norm we have it today is younger than college imo

7:59 AM · Jan 14, 2021

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It might be younger than the existence of institutions of learning, but regular people attending college is an extremely recent phenomenon. Attendance for monogamous sexual culture is much older.

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You are wrong about that. Monogamy as the norm has been in place for centuries. University as a norm for the middle class is a post-WW2 thing. Prior WW2 University education was for wealthy families and a few lucky strivers who could fit the race,sex and social norms of the rich

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I think you are talking about a thing from 1950, tho. Today monogamy is basically a luxury good (and one of the reasons is... college!). Outside the upper middle class, most of marriage (if even there is one) end up in divorce.

forbes.com

Hooking Up And Marriage: Luxury Goods For Educated Millennials

Somewhat paradoxically, marriage and hooking up—which can be anything from casual kissing to uncommitted sex—may both be luxuries for the educated and wealthy.