College has a big sting in it that ruins lives in a wide variety of ways, and we tend to brush it aside. When I say ppl aren't satisfied with sexual exclusivity in monogamy, it's like saying people are unsatisfied with college debt, even if they definitely wanted college.
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Cause obviously long term monogamy isn't exactly naturally aligned with the needs of a lot of people in it. By the time men are old, 25% report actually cheating on their wives. Something in our institution of marriage is deeply broken, it's not serving a huge chunk of people.
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Monogamy has more of a basis in human nature than college attendance. It’s a social institution that has, by now, proven its utility as a human practice (college too, but it’s a different kettle). Whatever downsides might exist, monogamy can certainly be said to be normal atp.
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Monogamy as the norm we have it today is younger than college imo
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hmm isn't life about managing & balancing one's dissatisfactions & dysfunctions? i might value sex & variety a more than most & am willing to tradeoff other stuff. i get that it's sort of perverse how monogamous couples are expected to be in denial about their own tradeoffs.
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Absolutely and that's a more much better basis for a discussion Imo than the op (with all due credit to Aella who's often interesting). Also it seems to me that monogamy works for most people and that's why it's the go-to situation, not the other way around.
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Monogomy is more lindy than modern college-by-default.
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I think humans, even before history, were pretty much "naughty monogamists". We pair-bond for life but then have a rendezvous every now and then. Imo, I prefer European type naughty monogamy
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Herodotus gives us a different picture. The one man family was a phenomenon seen inside the walls of civilisation, not so much outside
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It’s the other way around, people are broken and unfit for marriage. Aren’t there more serious downsides to polygamy? Emotional welfare of kids, bigger attack surface on ones emotional welfare, harder to achieve unity with anyone, dissipated resources of all kinds.
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I do think polyamory becomes a bit challenging once you throw children into the picture. Especially for more unusual types of polyamorous arrangements. To the point that it's not sustainable
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