i think it's near-impossible to find a man (and only slightly less impossible to find a woman) who will be satisfied with sexual exclusivity in a monogamous relationship for the rest of their life.
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Hi, a man right here who is very interested in a monogamous relationship with sexual exclusivity.
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the kind of proof i'll take is someone who's gone 30+ years without once wanting to have sex with another woman
Feeling desire to have sex w/ another person for a moment doesnt require one to be unsatisfied w/ their monogamous sex life.
Could feel the desire and still prefer to maintain the integrity of their monogamy.
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Well that's different.
Of course we "want to" but we never act on it. You're never going to find someone who doesn't "want" to I think that's unrealistic. But there's plenty who love being with 1 person and would never act on whimsical ideas
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You're changing the definition of monogamy to fit your narrative.
Monogamy is not the complete absence of any and all desire of anyone for the rest of your life.
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This is one of the most childish things I've ever read lmao
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Well, yeah, that might be impossible. My experience is probably not normal but, in my 36 years of life, I've been in one sexual relationship that lasted 6 months. I had no desire for sex with anyone but her. And, in the 13 years since, I have been celibate because --
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That's a very different question to ask than if someone is satisfied with monogamy. There are lots of desires people have throughout their lives without acting on them that they would still describe themselves as being satisfied without doing.
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Oh wow! I was noticed.
Well I've been chronically single for 9 years but I can say that when I was in a relationship (all online) I felt no desire to be with anyone else and even my porn watching was shared with my partner for just ideas.
But I'll report in next relationship.
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Humans have desires. Monogomany does not equate to never wanting to have sex with another person. Surely, you can see the wisdom in controlling our desires? One of the things that makes us uniquely human is our ability to forego immediate pleasure for long-term gain.
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