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If you had a child who came out as 100% gay, would you be happy and encouraging? What about if they came out as 100% polyamorous?

Gay yes, poly no
23.1%
Poly yes, gay no
2.6%
No, for neither
15.2%
Yes, for both
59.1%

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That’s telling right there. I’ve noticed that when it comes to lifestyles people are FAR less accepting than orientations. Even media inclusion is low/non existent for poly while media has gotten far more inclusive of LGBTQIA+ community I wonder how many years til that changes

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Fwiw I consider polyamory much closer to an orientation than a lifestyle. I feel like I'm naturally poly, like I could not consciously be not poly, like this is an unshakeable and core part of who I am. It absolutely does not feel like a choice to me.

1:57 AM · Jan 6, 2021

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At what time in your life did you discover that you were poly? I assume it’s less clear than with homo- and bisexuality.

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As soon as I heard what poly was, I was like ohhhhh, that's what I am. Id been in a monog relationship with a boy prior to this in which I did performative anger when I found out he'd been sexting with another girl, but hadn't actually minded.

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Yes, that’s fair. I’m also poly but heteroflexible at best so don’t have enough insight to draw the parallel of the two. it does bother me constantly to see lack of inclusion/acceptance of poly when there has been so much progress with other ways of life

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To me it just makes sense.. if you have two parents, one doesn’t diminish love for the other. if you have two siblings, one doesn’t diminish love for the other. So why do people not fathom two (or more) romantic partners also being natural and non diminishing to any one partner

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People attracted to animals (or worse) could say the same thing? Your question was about "encouragement" from a parent. I would not "encourage" polyamory nor monogamy. They should discover what works for themselves. They need acceptance and unconditional love, not encouragement.

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animals can’t consent. that’s not a valid comparison at all. I do see your point on phrasing of acceptance vs encouragement. Yeah I wouldn’t push either way I’d simply accept what they believe is right for them.

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An interesting one philosophically. I remember reading "The Myth of Monogamy" in the early 2000s. The gist was that it's rare in nature, and forced where not. I guess the result would be that everyone is poly, but do you value partner jealousy (potential) over multi partners?

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I've seen you say this, but my only previous exposure was other rationalish types talking about deliberate polyhacking and how to overcome/suppress feelings of jealousy. Wonder which is more common.