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Sure from an outside perspective, but I'm here from an experienced inside perspective to tell you that's not what's going on and that is a harmful misconception/stereotype. Country music is not about polyamory. I don't think I've ever heard any song that supports my lifestyle.

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It's quite possible that in some parts of the Red Tribe being gay is considered worse than being poly, but I don't think Westboro rednecks are reading DF's substack. And in many other places, as Aella notes, poly people get the sort of hate gays got a generation or two ago.

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i know closeted poly folks that absolutely would lose their job if they were outed ostracism, yup associating poly with child molestation, also, yup, that's definitely a thing

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"i cannot believe the experiences of the outgroup! it can't be that bad!" is a pattern i see so often and in so many contexts i don't doubt that there's a lot of histrionics and whining but, honestly, as a bi poly man, the "poly" bit is absolutely the scarier thing

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ok, the "poly" bit is absolutely the scarier thing is surprising. makes me think... so the southeast us?

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Imo gay is an easier update. I used to be very anti-gay but the shift to "oh it's the same relationship, just different gender" is relatively easy compared to ppls feelings about poly - no matter how you imagine it they can't get over the intense jealousy and horror

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There's very little in them to relate to when trying to empathize with polyamory, so they don't, whereas with gay ppl it's a bit if a smaller mental step out of bigotry

1:51 AM · Jan 6, 2021

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from what I’ve seen, “gay people are just as normal and boring as us” has been the most successful tactic I haven’t yet seen something equally effective for poly