If you're using race as a proxy for wealth (e.g., black ppl tend to be poorer and the poverty is a disadvantage), then you should just use wealth, not race.
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Im reminded of being in a clubhouse sex worker room where I was surprised to find all the other black sex workers had come from significantly more advantaged positions than me; I was the only one who got into sex work cause I was very poor and had few other options.
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This was legitimately surprising cause I'd been hearing black rooms talk about being disadvantaged and I sort of assumed this meant at least some of the girls, statistically speaking, would have been worse off than me.
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But no, one had quit a six figure job cause sex work was doing better for her, another had done it just for fun as a side gig, another was in a secure life and her boyfriend urged her to try it. Every single one of them was wealthier and had more options than I'd had.
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But in those conversations, the fact I was homeless and sleeping on a friend's couch was irrelevant, because I'm white. Whiteness is privilege, so the disadvantages of my poverty weren't meaningful or tied into any broader narrative. Nobody in that room said anything about it.
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The problem I have with the "white privilege" narrative is that it's usually treated as if it trumps all other privileges. That just doesn't hold up.
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Your wealth is a form of privilege, as well as race, sexuality, religion, gender and others. Even though race is a common example, the others should never be irrelevant. Sorry you found that to be the case.
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every single conversation i would have with someone about privilege we did(n't) have, the only "one ups" i had on them was being ,white, male, and straight. every other aspect they had more privilege than me, every single time. but because i was white, it didn't matter.
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This might be making the opposite point you're intending? I'm assuming this clubhouse situation isn't just open to any SWer, so your peers aren't a representative sample of all SWers. It sounds like you made it to a place that only advantaged black SWers made it to.
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