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I'm agender, in that when I google 'agender' everything that's said about it sounds right to me. I have no sense of internal gender, womanness feels like a suit I got put into. But the concept of telling people I'm "not cis" feels so bizarre. 1/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Dec 22, 2020

Why would I do that? People see my woman suit and know that woman suits mean something in society, and that seems... true. It also seems totally irrelevant to me if they understand I don't 'feel' like a woman. It doesn't impact anything. Why would I bother to correct them? 2/

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@Aella_Girl

Like, if I used they/them pronouns that wouldn't *mean* anything. I'd still look and act like I do, and nothing else would change, and nothing about the way they viewed me would change. She/her pronouns are part of my woman suit, and like sure, whatever man. 3/

3:19 AM · Dec 22, 2020

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It also seems weird cause 'cis' is often used as a weapon in the gender culture wars, and sometimes people who are angry at me describe me as cis, and I often don't correct them, because it feels weird that my agenderness should be relevant *at all* to almost *anything*

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I think it mostly has to do with feeling comfortable in your own skin and self respect. For you, that’s clearly not an issue, but for many, it is.

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Switching to the other gender, and then making a big performance about being that new gender, is a bizarre approach if the purpose is to free people from these classifications. It would seem to reinforce the idea that gender is an intrinsic element of a person’s inner essence.