I'm agender, in that when I google 'agender' everything that's said about it sounds right to me. I have no sense of internal gender, womanness feels like a suit I got put into.
But the concept of telling people I'm "not cis" feels so bizarre. 1/
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Why would I do that? People see my woman suit and know that woman suits mean something in society, and that seems... true. It also seems totally irrelevant to me if they understand I don't 'feel' like a woman. It doesn't impact anything. Why would I bother to correct them? 2/
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Like, if I used they/them pronouns that wouldn't *mean* anything. I'd still look and act like I do, and nothing else would change, and nothing about the way they viewed me would change. She/her pronouns are part of my woman suit, and like sure, whatever man. 3/
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It also seems weird cause 'cis' is often used as a weapon in the gender culture wars, and sometimes people who are angry at me describe me as cis, and I often don't correct them, because it feels weird that my agenderness should be relevant *at all* to almost *anything*
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Out of curiosity. When you dream, and you yourself is in it, how do you look? Same woman suit?
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I'm often me, but also often lots of other forms, including other genders, races, ages, and species
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The whole discussion seems to be about some spiritual sense or stereotypes of what a woman/man should be. But you're objectively a woman, it's a fact. Nobody can give a coherent description of that 'internal gender', so I'd say you're a woman who feels like an individual.
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Sure, my stance is that gender is in the eye of the beholder, and I am beheld as female
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It is fine and dandy that you have these views about your pronouns - they should be respected. However the views other people have about their own pronouns should be respected. Misgendering people literally violates their wishes about how they wish to be treated.
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For most men, we don't walk around consciously feeling 'masculine' all day. We walk around feeling like ourselves. Masculinity only becomes salient when we need to consciously upregulate or down regulate how much of it were deploying, or how we're deploying it.
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