People have way bigger variance around sexual promiscuity than you think. Some people genuinely strongly prefer trad, monog, conservative sexuality; others genuinely strongly prefer nontrad, polyamorous, publicly expressed sexuality. both of these are FINE. this isn't a war!
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I "got mad" cause I thought I was supposed to be mad, but it really didn't bother me. It seemed obvious that my boyfriend loved me, and his sexting had nothing to do with how much he wanted me. Once I heard what polyamory was, it was like... ohhh. *That's* what I am.
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It feels ingrained, the way I am. Ever since the moment I heard what polyamory was, I knew without a doubt that was me, and in the ten years since then I've never once thought about being monogamous. And guess what - there's men out there who are also like me!
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And hardcore polyamory does *not* mean lack of commitment - I know poly couples who have been married for decades with kids. To me, polyamory simply means "not requiring your partner to avoid intimacy with others." That's it, and that can take many different forms.
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I tend to behave 'monogamously' in my relationships; once I find someone I really like, I tend to be happy with them and not seek out anyone else. Often they feel the same about me. And that's great! But at no point would did we expect that other intimacy was off the table.
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Misconceptions about polyamory: *polyamory means less commitment (poly ppl's primary relationships last the same amount as monog ones do) *no men will want you if you're poly (so many married poly women out there!) *polyamory is necessarily a phase or a choice
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All this to say that I get lots of shit online for expressing difficulty finding a partner; people assume it's because I do sex work, and no man wants that. But... this feels like not the issue to me. I'm poly already, and poly men are way more likely to be fine with sex work.
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In my heavily poly circles, I've never once seen a sex worker have trouble dating. It's legitimately just a job - and maybe that's hard for you to understand, but for some people it's actually seriously not a big deal. Sex is a different type of thing for us, and we like it.
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