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Often, beautiful people downplay their own beauty. If you complain about how you don't like x feature, your beautiful friend might be like "I totally get it, I hate a feature about me too." This is kinda annoying, and also how I feel about productive people. 1/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

I often have a deep distrust that people who go "Oh yeah, I suck at being productive too" actually understand what my productivity issues are like. I am suspicious their perception of my difficulties are blinded by them trying to relate through their own, more minor hardships.

8:56 PM · Dec 10, 2020

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Some part of me wants to go "no you DON'T get it. you're acting like you get it but you have obviously accomplished big projects and so I don't trust you or your advice for me" even though I know this response is a little silly.

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Dec 10, 2020

And in an even more silly move, I suspect sometimes I'm unproductive in an attempt to prove to more productive people that I'm actually worse than they are, that they weren't really listening to me. I want them to go "Wow, Aella, that sucks, I had no idea."

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It's how many of us were taught to sympathize. It's difficult or near impossible to truly understand what another person is going through, so comparing your struggles to something related that they've gone through is just a way of demonstrating some level of mutual understanding.

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Dec 11, 2020

I believe that! If you were like "Aella, I see you as more productive than me, I can't do x y z" i'd be like "yeah ok maybe you're right." I *do* have friends I think are actually more unproductive than me and I'm really careful how I respond to them

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