I have pretty strange and strongly wired in abnormalities in how and when I communicate with other people and I don't know how to quickly convey to them that no the reason for me behaving this way is because my brain is weird, it's not because of you at all.
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I often end up having semi awkward conversations where I have to quickly explain "no I'm just like this. No that's not an excuse to hide a more normal reason, I actually do this to everybody."
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Some things: I can't have one on one conversations unless there's an explicit goal, and no you can't just make one up. There's 50% chance I'll respond to your msg, even if it's great and I like you.
Also I need to figure out why we're talking, explicitly and out loud, right now.
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Same and I'm not autistic I think. If I have to talk to somebody I practice on my mind first to don't do strange things. It take energy.
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I'm curious. Do you think this is a trait that you could effectively teach yourself to combat (assuming you see it as a negative). For example high functioning autistic people teaching themselves to recognize nonverbal cues, not monopolizing conversations, etc.
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I don't understand this lol, the information you get is worth the time spent talking to them?
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Oh, I have this. My very sparse phone call list is all one or two minute calls.
I often cut calls short by asking directly, "so what can I do for you?"
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Simply because it's pleasurable to do so. Isn't that goal enough. But if that's not there for both parties, then normally the conversation doesn't continue.
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I'm trying to remember what I was doing in la 4 years ago and... Idk?
But I am capable of having spontaneous good one on one conversations! It's much easier for me if it's spontaneous actually, because I don't feel like someone is actively trying to talk to me and I can leave.