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Aella
@Aella_Girl
For the ppl scrawling my Twitter history to catch me saying a bad word, here's the one you were mad about - me directly quoting someone else in a finer point of an ideological turing test thread, in quotes to make it clear I was referencing the use of the word on a meta level.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
I don't know anybody who would agree with all of that, though I know at least one person who is on board the "black men abandon their families and are responsible for crime rates" train. They would never ever say they hate black people or "niggas"
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Moonster
What's the line between this and abuse? If a girlfriend offends her boyfriend by hanging out with her girlfriends, then you're still accurate in that even tho she didn't intend to offend him, he was offended. I would still tell her no, don't apologise.
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The Moon in the Low Castle
@Moonster
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@Aella_Girl
I don’t think a woman hanging out with her girlfriends is either intrinsically or objectively offensive. It’s just an action that, without additional context (it’s their anniversary?), might not be offensive at all. So I went with a stranger stepping on a toe. Seems clearer.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Moonster
I don't think using the word I did in the context I used it in was offensive whatsoever. People who get mad at it seem waaaaay closer to the abusive boyfriend than the toe stepped on. They actively went through my Twitter history to find it and get offended by it.
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Aella_Girl
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@Moonster
They went into a conversation where I was directly quoting someone else's use of the term, referencing the term use itself, from a year ago, to try to tell me that made me racist. That is abusive and insane.
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The Moon in the Low Castle
@Moonster
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@Aella_Girl
Maybe your sensitivity assessment isn’t the only one that should be considered? Because it is coming across as your booted heel feels fine, so why’s the guy in toe-shoes complaining? “Racist” casts a pretty wide net and I don’t know that it applies - but maybe “insensitive”, tho?
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
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@Moonster
There's gotta be a line somewhere. Are they saying it's racist to even reference the term on a meta level? That the utterance of the sounds is inherently racist regardless of context? Like, ok you can be upset by that if you want but I'm not changing my behavior.
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The Moon in the Low Castle
@Moonster
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@Aella_Girl
I’m not up on that convo but based on this exchange, I think racist was the wrong word to be used for that instance. “Racially insensitive” would seem be a more appropriate “charge” as like you said, you don’t seem to really care if people are upset over it and you won’t change.
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