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Aella
@Aella_Girl
There's a strong, healthy (house, kids, emotionally mature) monogamous marriage that began with an active sex life. After decades, one of the spouses loses sex drive due to hormonal shifts. The other spouse still has a high sex drive and is now frustrated. You'd recommend:
  • Sex anyway, it's a duty
    31.4%
  • Stop sex & be frustrated
    11.2%
  • Divorce
    8.9%
  • Stop being monogamous
    48.5%
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Christopher of 🌎
@CityOnTheBayou
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@Aella_Girl
Going through this at present minus the kids. My wife is very young (37) & I am 42. She had medical issues & a procedure when she was 27 that has seemingly permanently negatively impacted her sex drive. It’s been a challenge to work past & is never resolved. I love her a lot.
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hyper(bolic) disco(unting) girl
@hyperdiscogirl
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@Aella_Girl
Have people who answered 1 ever had sex where the other person was doing it out of a sense of duty/just for your sake? It pretty much sucks ass IME, but maybe that's a gendered thing Now, doing it even when you don't feel like it as a way to increase your drive is worth trying
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simon
@simoj_
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@hyperdiscogirl
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@Aella_Girl
I think there’s a thing worth doing where you try out of duty to get up the activation energy to get started. If it’s a slog the whole way through yeah... sucks ass and not in the good way
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Nick Brown
@nwbvt
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@Aella_Girl
I wouldn't say it's a duty but presumably satisfying the person you love is something you still want to do. And there are ways of doing that which don't involve intercourse if you get my drift.
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