Conversation

Absolutely true. And if the husband is going to cheat, it's better to do it with a contained, safe sex worker who is std tested regularly. Way lower chance of her "stealing" the husband away, and the husband gets a sexual outlet so he's less likely to leave the marriage! twitter.com/default_friend

This Tweet is unavailable.

205

237

Aella

@Aella_Girl

Nov 22, 2020

For a lot of marriages, the husband cheating with a sex worker is the only thing keeping the marriage together

163

185

Aella

@Aella_Girl

because i sense possible ratio incoming, i wanna clarify that what the hell is a husband supposed to do when his wife of 30 years stops having sex with him entirely? leave her, throw everything away that they've built, or just spend the rest of his life never having sex again?

2:33 AM · Nov 23, 2020

Replying to

I mean the implication of "cheating" is that it's furtive. So if you think this is a reasonable thing to do I guess you'd have to explain why the husband should have to be dishonest about it.

Replying to

generally, it's because the wives would be very upset if they found out.

Replying to

I'm interested in the heteronormative framing of this. Many women live in marriages and relationships where the man witholds any physical intimacy,v sexual contact and affection. It devastates their confidence and makes them feel unworthy and frustrated.

Replying to

I also do think this is bad (but less common)! I've experienced this myself and it sucks ass.

Show replies

Replying to

That is a bulls** argument, and you know it. No one is entitled to sex. A husband is not entitled to his wife's body, or anyone else's. If one wants sex & the other doesn't, then that needs to be discussed, open & honestly. Divorce is much better than living in misery.

Replying to

Sure, the wife is not obligated to fuck him if she doesn't want to! This is why the outlet of an escort makes sense.

Show replies

Replying to

How about go to counselling and find out what's really wrong. If she won't have sex with him, something is wrong in the relationship. Sex with someone else is not going to "hold the marriage together".

Replying to

Erm...split up so you can both find someone you're compatible with and be happy? Not sure nipping off to knock boots with a prostitute is any kind of reasonable idea.

This Tweet is from an account that no longer exists. Learn more

Replying to

and

What if somebody... actually doesn't want... to have sex? I'd consider this a reductio of eternally absolutely closed marriages that stay closed past this condition occurring; I would certainly not consider it a proof of abuse if somebody just doesn't want sex anymore.

Show replies