Conversation

Aella
@Aella_Girl
In my experience, the biggest unspoken and often unseen social motivator is attractiveness. Consistently, hotter people are treated better, even subtly, and consistently most people around me have either denied or ignored that they're treating/being treated differently.
61
1,002
Aella
@Aella_Girl
Hotter people are more confident, because they've been getting this boost from society that's invisible to them. In their world, people just like them more, treat them better, and they don't see how unattractive people don't get the same treatment.
5
249
Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've seen my male friends swarm an attractive women and describe her personality as glowing, her demeanor as confident and assured, when in my opinion she was not actually cool; they were blinded by her face and they were completely unaware to how blinded they were.
4
196
Aella
@Aella_Girl
I've also seen really attractive friends get treated well; people smile at them more, pay them more attention in conversations, ask them more questions, are kinder, get more favors, and those attractive friends never once acknowledge that being hot is why they're so confident.
6
210
Matt A. Myers ▲
@mattamyers
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
If you judge people purely on shallow layer of physical attractiveness then you're unlikely to have very rich or deep relationships. Also, confidence, knowledge, critical thinking ability, having experiences, and knowing how to take care of yourself are overall more important.
out blind spot
@TPSReport
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
From the individual's point of view, this is the fundamental attribution error. Attractive individuals explain their success by their talents, not societal biases toward attractiveness. From society's point of view, this is the engagement economy. Only stimulation gets attention.
1
Sam Patt
@SamuelPatt
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
Hard to discuss when it's difficult to know how others perceive you. At least with most other issues your own identity is more less a known quantity, both to yourself and others. Many attractive people don't consider themselves attractive, and plenty of unattractive do.
Kell
@_KellieMae
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
I watched in college as the "hottest" girl on campus was picked apart the most severely when she left the room (by other girls). Definitely a jealousy thing, they called her "Barbie". Fascinating to watch. I thought she was nice.
2
VanChandler
@VanChandler10
Replying to
@Aella_Girl
You're explaining how human beings have worked since time immemorial. It's not new or unspoken. And its 100% privilege. We all know it, 95% of us envy it, and the top 5% don't understand what the big deal is. You're one of the rare 5% people,
@Aella_Girl
. Good morning. ❤️
1