Hotness is mostly a consequence of believing that you’re hot. It transcends physical attractiveness, which plays a much smaller role than people think.
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But a big part of your job is acting like you believe you're hot, right?
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acting like i believe i am desirable by them yes. this doesnt work nearly as well for people who aren't above a certain threshhold of hotness
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as in; culturally there's *intense* mockery for unattractive people who behave outside their attractiveness ranking.
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Claiming unearned status is a source of mockery in almost any sphere.
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right, and 'believing youre hot makes you hot' only works if you're not claiming unearned status; i.e., if you are already hot enough to get social backing for claiming it.
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have you never met a relatively unattractive-by-society's standards who you nonetheless deemed to be really hot?
I think a good media example is Abigail from girls. You can't quite tell from this picture, but in her final episodes when she falls in love, she becomes very hot
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I haven't seen Girls so idk, but i can't think of an example where culture deemed an unattractive girl 'hot' in a serious way (as opposed to body positivity way)
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You should watch Girls it's a good show
Also I'm not talking about cultural definitions of hot but rather: boners
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Seems likely. My definition mostly applies to offline experience of people where you can feel their vibes more. Would correspond to physiological tells like, "Gives dude a boner" / "Makes her blood rush" even if the person would not be called hot
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cultural definitions of women's hot revolve around men's collective boner
“If you’re going to compare and contrast our genders, men are, by far, the more visual and chemistry-driven sex. Which means that they are more likely to conclude within five seconds of meeting a woman that there is not going to be a second date.”
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