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right, and 'believing youre hot makes you hot' only works if you're not claiming unearned status; i.e., if you are already hot enough to get social backing for claiming it.

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have you never met a relatively unattractive-by-society's standards who you nonetheless deemed to be really hot? I think a good media example is Abigail from girls. You can't quite tell from this picture, but in her final episodes when she falls in love, she becomes very hot

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I haven't seen Girls so idk, but i can't think of an example where culture deemed an unattractive girl 'hot' in a serious way (as opposed to body positivity way)

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Seems likely. My definition mostly applies to offline experience of people where you can feel their vibes more. Would correspond to physiological tells like, "Gives dude a boner" / "Makes her blood rush" even if the person would not be called hot

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i find this so intensely wrong i think hot people self-delude themselves into thinking their physical attractiveness is less important than it is and ppl treat them well and they rationalize it into being confident but the confidence came from being hot in the first place

9:15 PM · Nov 12, 2020

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i also think that this 'might' be more true for men but is *still* overblown; i saw firsthand the insane difference with which women treated my hot male friends vs my unattractive ones and for women it's even worse

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No idea if this is apocryphal, but it relates: linkedin.com/pulse/charisma Have personally experienced this effect when I'm at a party or walking the street of NYC and "turn it on"

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