when i imagined being my dad, i realized that it 'felt good', in the sense that there was no sense of being wrong. He felt like a victim, persecuted and hurt by others - and this was *exactly how I felt*. I felt like he was hurting me, and like he shouldn't be. 2/
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So from an early age I struggled a lot with the paranoia that I was really cruel and hurting a lot of other people, because I saw that cruel people *felt as correct as I did*. A lot of my attention went to trying to figure out how I could tell - from the inside, how do you know 3
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if you're being cruel to others? And I realized that to be different from my dad, I needed to stop using "you hurt me" as a justification to hurt other people back. That no matter the pain someone caused me, I needed to hold their humanity in mind and care for them. 4/
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This has deeply informed my entire worldview from a pretty young age, and I think is why I'm so repulsed by a lot of the political discourse happening now. So much of it are righteous justifications of hurting other people due to how they've been hurt. I get the appeal, but 5/
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these people are utterly failing to empathize with the people who hurt them - and empathizing with people who hurt you is how you learn what it's like to be a cruel person, and thus how to avoid being that yourself. 6/6
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thank you for being so open and transparent with your story. i'm glad you're on your own path now!
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Did the Aella person (Woman, I guess?) suddenly appear on anybody else's radar these two past weeks or so She drops a lot of great wisdom/ideas
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Love this story. Would like to translate it in French and publish it. Would you agree? For non-commercial purpose. Could you write me if you have questions?
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I think this story is important and deserves more views than Twitter will give it.
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Thank you, I'm trying to write a book
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