why is casual sex bad so often
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🤷♀️sex is super-good (vs “not bad” or “pleasurable”) in proportion to a combination of 1) wanting to have someone’s babies (& everything that entails), and 2) wanting to communicate profoundly. Probably not high on either dimension if casual?
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maybe so? I don't think this resonates with me personally. I've had really good sex with ppl I wasn't profoundly communicating with or want to have babies with. i think im just obligate kinky
I'd guess obligate kinky people actually can't have the best kind of sex; they'd need to clear the relevant trauma first. This is my experience; as I stripped off layers of trauma, first I got access narrow intensity, then gradually (and non-monotonically) something deeper.
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