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Deleting onlyfans isn't too tall an order, in the same way "i'm uncomfortable with you hanging out alone with your friends" isn't too tall an order. The point isn't how difficult it is to follow, it's that the order indicates something more deeply misaligned. twitter.com/kaschuta/statu

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Oct 24, 2020

There's lots of ways partners attempt to restrict each other's behavior that's *not* condoned by society, and it feels sort of weird to me that in a post-birth-control era, we're okay with partners controlling each other's sexuality.

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There are other health issues beyond birth control, like STDs, that can arise with having multiple sex partners while in a relationship. Beyond that, trying to remove emotion from sex is a very tall order for the masses, especially with the hormones released while doing it.

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Sure, I agree, culturally we're conditioned around having jealousy and there's almost no messaging around how to handle sexual insecurity. Poly relationships handle STDs pretty well, there's lots of methods ppl use and guidelines around fluid bonding!

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Poly relations are doomed at the start

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I actually did a study on this and primary poly relationships seem to last about equally as long as monogamous ones!

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I wouldn't have thought so, also the real question is how many are lifelong ? (which is the point of monogamy )

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When you say relationships last in the poly sense do you mean the entire group staying together, or just at least two of the people? My friends don't often have a third consistent person intertwined in their relationship, but the main two have stayed together for 18 years.