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Deleting onlyfans isn't too tall an order, in the same way "i'm uncomfortable with you hanging out alone with your friends" isn't too tall an order. The point isn't how difficult it is to follow, it's that the order indicates something more deeply misaligned. twitter.com/kaschuta/statu

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Oct 24, 2020

There's lots of ways partners attempt to restrict each other's behavior that's *not* condoned by society, and it feels sort of weird to me that in a post-birth-control era, we're okay with partners controlling each other's sexuality.

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There are other health issues beyond birth control, like STDs, that can arise with having multiple sex partners while in a relationship. Beyond that, trying to remove emotion from sex is a very tall order for the masses, especially with the hormones released while doing it.

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Sure, I agree, culturally we're conditioned around having jealousy and there's almost no messaging around how to handle sexual insecurity. Poly relationships handle STDs pretty well, there's lots of methods ppl use and guidelines around fluid bonding!

6:47 PM · Oct 24, 2020

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Poly relations are doomed at the start

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I actually did a study on this and primary poly relationships seem to last about equally as long as monogamous ones!

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I think the insecurity for most goes beyond sexual and into feeling emotionally neglected, or unneeded in general. While in no way scientific, the poly success stories I know involve a common desire (e.g. homosexual) or people that have been through significant emotional trauma.

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I think romantic/sexual jealousy is more-or-less innate (doesn't mean everyone has it), and healthy inasmuch as it encourages genetic reproductive success. It's not an obstacle to be eliminated.

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What do you do about HPV, for instance?