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Deleting onlyfans isn't too tall an order, in the same way "i'm uncomfortable with you hanging out alone with your friends" isn't too tall an order. The point isn't how difficult it is to follow, it's that the order indicates something more deeply misaligned. twitter.com/kaschuta/statu

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There's lots of ways partners attempt to restrict each other's behavior that's *not* condoned by society, and it feels sort of weird to me that in a post-birth-control era, we're okay with partners controlling each other's sexuality.

6:31 PM · Oct 24, 2020

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There are other health issues beyond birth control, like STDs, that can arise with having multiple sex partners while in a relationship. Beyond that, trying to remove emotion from sex is a very tall order for the masses, especially with the hormones released while doing it.

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Sure, I agree, culturally we're conditioned around having jealousy and there's almost no messaging around how to handle sexual insecurity. Poly relationships handle STDs pretty well, there's lots of methods ppl use and guidelines around fluid bonding!

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Well to be fair we're not in a post STD era

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true, but poly people have a really good handle on this - it's very common to find fluid bonding agreements in poly relationships, very similar to pandemic quarantine bubble arrangements!

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by the way you call it "controlling" and suggest it shouldn't be seen as ok, seems like you just don't get what it is too make sacrifices for the preferences of the partner

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would you respond this way to someone who doesn't want their partner to hang out one-on-one with any friends?

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So you cool with your man showing his big ol willie off to other women?

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Yep. Even putting it inside them!

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I think it's voluntary in relationships where it works well. That is, people want to restrict their own sexuality in the ways that they restrict it for their partner. That's the kind of relationship they value. There are certainly relationships where it's coerced too though.

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yes, it is. I'm polyamorous and only date other polyamorous people. I fuck other people and they do too.

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