Not that many years ago, I was attracted to "masculine" men. Long hair was gross; if a dude wore a skirt this made my vagina shrivel into sand. Then I joined a culture where masculine signalling was done differently - skirt wearing and long hair were *countersignalling* - 1/
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Monogamy/trad stuff is a 'stable setup' - there's a set of norms and expectations that makes things predictable and workable. But there's lots of other 'stable setups' - and it can be really hard to understand how it works if you haven't seen it up close, just like how I didn't 6
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get how some of my female friends could possibly stand their partners sometimes wearing makeup, before I entered that culture and realized the signals actually meant quite different things than I thought. Promiscuity culture can be extremely stable, and there's norms inside it.7/
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The trad perspective of promiscuity culture is absolutely *not* how promiscuity culture actually works. Promiscuity culture signals mean very different things than they mean in traditional communities, but trad people see those signals, misinterpret, and get horrified. 8/
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For me, a man in a skirt meant weakness, but when it started meaning strength, I was attracted. The signals change, but the values underneath remain stable. The values underneath promiscuity culture are surprisingly similar to the values underneath trad culture, imo.
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Yes, I think there is something to this. E.g., Cleopatra maneuvered her way to the top of the ancient world through sexuality, and powered through any doubts that raised about her relationship with Marc Antony with such a level of devotion that even Shakespeare wrote about it.
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