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The idea that sex workers can't find husbands is so weird to me... I've run deep in sex worker circles for coming up on a decade and it's never been an issue. Most of the girls in the chats have long term boyfriends, a big chunk of them are married. 1/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

Oct 16, 2020

I haven't noticed any significant difference in their relationships vs. non-sex-worker relationships (except gender role dynamics; typically the woman is the breadwinner and the man does housework). Lots of them are rearing kids that none of their fans know about. 2/

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Aella

@Aella_Girl

I personally have never ever had an issue where sex work got in the way - my partners have supported (or participated with!) me entirely. The idea that they're hiding discomfort with sex work is *absurd*, given how many more touchy, difficult things they're honest with me about.

2:16 AM · Oct 16, 2020

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I’m not monogamous. My husband is great about my sex work. Boyfriends? Not so much. There’s some scarcity/insecurity in that.

Mistress Wild Iris / Bay Area Dominatrix & FBSM

@MxWildIris

Oct 16, 2020

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@Aella_Girl

I love this inquiry and agree with you. The responses to this thread are bizarre and do not reflect the lifestyles I’ve seen personally and with friends in the industry. It’s odd to me that folks look to SWers for comfort and illumination yet fail //

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Look up the Stats or try doing one of your polls on this and see if that still the case.. Would be interesting

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That's because like everything on social media. You only see the good side. But did you ever stop to wonder why every sex worker never shows their man's faces and they always got a different one?

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I love how every time this sort of thing comes up you start getting quote-tweeted by people who seem to think you don't know that being a sex worker will narrow your dating pool, in that it will exclude men who are not okay with marrying sex workers :P

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What percent of camgirls choose a mate from among their fans? If some do, is tipping more important than what they might observe by turning on the members cam to cam? I hope this doesn’t sound impertinent but as a veteran cam watcher can’t help but wonder. You are sweet.

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