Go fish with a larger net. Meet more people in any possible way, join new and different groups that you are used to. Accept invitations to new activities. It's about volume, you have to dig through manure to find the gem
If you're hellbent on avoiding OkCupid, go to Tinder/Fetlife and break the ice with a meaningful question/statement. Keep talking and good candidates will remain. Good men don't turn down cool conversations with hot women. Soon you'll have someone you'd want to meet in person.