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I suspect seduction rites and sex rites are two extremely different classes and should be treated separately. Seduction rites include culturally visible sexual power - from bared ankles to miniskirts - and messaging around that power. Right now we're seeing a huge rise in 1/

female sexual signalling - the scope of what is acceptable female seduction display is widening a lot - look at Onlyfans and WAP. It's very explicit, borderline pornographic, female-empowerment messaging. But I think this is *not* transferring to sex as much as people think! 2/

Our cultural messaging isn't emphasizing sexual messaging, it's emphasizing sexual *power*, and culturally, women's sexual power is held *without* having sex with men. Case study: Bella Thorne. Bella is the most recent famous Onlyfans girl and a great example of 3/

what people (or more importantly, young women) think of as sexual power and *how* to be acceptable on Onlyfans. Bella posts very tantalizing photos, obscured art nudes, high-flash short-skirt shots, but *not* actual pornography. Her message is "Come close, but don't touch." 4/

And this is the same with WAP - the singers of the song are both in long term relationships, one of them married. Iirc Cardi B has joked about not actually having sex with many people, despite the song. The lyrics are explicit but the women themselves *are not*. 5/

The fascinating thing about Onlyfans isn't that girls are sluttier (young women are having *less* sex!), it's that the line between seduction and sex is getting much more visible in the narrowing space. To me, the lack of bleed over is the important and worrying thing here. 6

1:13 AM · Oct 13, 2020

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Women's sexual power is being flaunted - the thing you want but cannot get is being blown up, socially embraced, put into your face. And I think this is good - but what's worrying to me is the asymmetry between gendered power here. I think if we don't figure out a way to give 7/