Do not try to push through at all costs. Some costs are too great. Don't expect to change your spouse. Stand up for yourself. Divorce is actually an out that you can take if your partner is genuinely awful, or if you want a better life.
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I'm remembering how "marriage is sacred don't give up" messaging actively prevented my mother from escaping her abusive husband. That messaging can be extremely dangerous and instead I wanna hear "marriage is amazing, keep at it, but sometimes it's not worth it"
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The actual message should be an in between that's flexible enough for circumstance - "if marriage is awful, if your partner is a toxic pos, leave! But if they're a good person, then try to stick with it, especially if you have kids" is a message I support
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An inbetween would have given your mother the messaging that, if followed, would have prevented her from divorce, and would have encouraged my mother to divorce.
Abuse isn't a super rare thing you know, and actually fuck you if you think telling abused women to stay there is
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Oh sure I'm not attached to that wording, I meant it targeted towards abuse but I'm down to be more specific.