Marriage is sometimes awful! I sometimes think people who are elevating marriage have never known a really terrible person who used "marriage is good, divorce bad" cultural messaging to trap someone into a hellscape of a marriage.
Marriage is not sacred! If it's bad, leave!!
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Do not try to push through at all costs. Some costs are too great. Don't expect to change your spouse. Stand up for yourself. Divorce is actually an out that you can take if your partner is genuinely awful, or if you want a better life.
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This is a very juvenile take. Marriage can be difficult and it is also very difficult to part the ties with family, friends, and perhaps kids. There is also a lot to be learned by sticking through the worst of it
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I'm speaking from the experience of watching my mother return to her abusive husband because a pastor talked about the sanctity of marriage.
If marriage keeps you trapped then absolutely fuck it. I'm sure it works out for a lot of people but absolutist messaging is dangerous.
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I agree, my first wife and I were not suited, the harder I tried it just seemed to make things worse. 2nd time round (both been married before) couldn't be more different, both so very happy. Communication is everything.
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There are plenty of healthy marriages composed of mutual respect, love, intimacy, and happy children. And that's a good thing.
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Marriage is the bond holding society together. There may be a smattering or cult leaders/members who wrongly advocate remaining in an abusive marriage. A successful marriage requires a complete self gift. The truth is complex and apocalyptically significant.
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Marriage is very good for society as a whole. The numbers are pretty striking.
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lol at all the people riding in on defence of marriage when the message was simply that sometimes one has to get out.
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