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@Aella_Girl
My brain's behavior around attraction and mate selection is very confusing to me, probably intentionally so I can't figure it out and then hack it into letting me have more sex. But basically, 'confidence' is a huge one, along with lots of special accidental shit-tests to see 1/
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if the confidence is real or fake. Humor is a great shit-test; it's harder to be funny when hiding nervousness. I also notice I do an aggressive kind of teasing right away; if someone acquiesces to me in an 'appease' sort of move, it's unattractive; pushing back is hot 2/
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@weightymeasures
not necessarily, it's just... not being submissive? e.g., might tease someone for having a photo in a cliche place, if they defend it ("well my brother was going and i had to come along") it's gross; if they agree and amplify ("Yeah I'm cliche baby, take it or leave it") it's hot