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Aella
@Aella_Girl
My brain's behavior around attraction and mate selection is very confusing to me, probably intentionally so I can't figure it out and then hack it into letting me have more sex. But basically, 'confidence' is a huge one, along with lots of special accidental shit-tests to see 1/
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Aella
@Aella_Girl
if the confidence is real or fake. Humor is a great shit-test; it's harder to be funny when hiding nervousness. I also notice I do an aggressive kind of teasing right away; if someone acquiesces to me in an 'appease' sort of move, it's unattractive; pushing back is hot 2/
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Arden Leigh
@itsmeardenleigh
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@Aella_Girl
I get that we can’t necessarily control what we’re attracted to but this rules out a large chunk of people with PTSD and smacks a bit of ableism as such. Fawn response is a survival mechanism.
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