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My brain's behavior around attraction and mate selection is very confusing to me, probably intentionally so I can't figure it out and then hack it into letting me have more sex. But basically, 'confidence' is a huge one, along with lots of special accidental shit-tests to see 1/

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@dontt234

Oct 9, 2020

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Do you want to change this?

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Yes and no? I don't mind it in itself, but I would like to be able to have more casual sex.

10:03 PM · Oct 9, 2020

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Doesn’t sound particularly casual when all the provisos are required.

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Can relate. From my experience, no one gets mate selection right until it comes time to have kids (maybe after you've had them). Fantasy without necessity. You need something outside yourself to orient your selection, otherwise it's a strange mirror.

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So, suppose you have casual sex with a guy, and he then goes around shouting WOO YEAH I FUCKED AELLA to everyone who'll listen. How much would that negatively affect your life? (genuine question)

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You probably need to mingle with more famous men. Is there some kind of elite dating app? Famous people date other famous people partly because it resolves many of these questions you have.

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You already know what you need to have sex with a man (this thread), you also know your hard limits. There's also grey area between those two. I suggest you start adding some of that to the Yes conditions. Make the process rational since feelings never are. 1/2

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Consider talking to Celeste from CelesteandDanielle.com. Celeste had her act together and had been doing sex and relationship coaching for several years. She's really good.

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