When someone asks me to use nonstandard pronouns and identifies as nonbinary, I do so without question. It's not hard to do! This information changes how I understand they want other people to perceive their gender, but it does not change the way I perceive their gender.
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This isn't a deliberate thing. I'm not in the corner cackling like 'yes I will invalidate genderqueer experience I love being evil.' If the nonbinary person stopped seeming female to me in practical ways, then the game would start to feel real, and I'm 100% fine with that.
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I love the idea of a glorious transhumanist future where gender isn't real and we can switch back and forth and be whatever. I'm agender myself (or something?), very pro plastic surgery and hormones and whatever it takes to make people process you into the category you want.
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the insistence that you need to view people as they want to be seen even if it doesn't feel like something you can do or legitimately is at odds with your perception, is gaslightly and abusive and you are NOT a bad person if you can't feel the things they want you to feel
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I have some theories about the harm we are doing by not pushing people to become secure in their own identity, reinforcing their need for others to validate their identity. It seems on the surface that we are helping them.. but in the end we are doing them a great disservice
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Is gender only a new aspect of this domain we've always had? A buddy is dating a girl we all think isn't right for him, but we hold our tongues because it's polite. Non-religious people don't object to religious speech at weddings or funerals. A friend swears by Brand X.
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So what about people who have a principled position against lying for any reason?
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Probably because it is playing pretend, it is just another big [social] game, and it's not real in any objective sense -- but I think there are very real negative long-term consequences of going down this road.
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