When someone asks me to use nonstandard pronouns and identifies as nonbinary, I do so without question. It's not hard to do! This information changes how I understand they want other people to perceive their gender, but it does not change the way I perceive their gender.
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But again, to reiterate, to them and everyone else I do pretend they're not a woman, because it's not hard to do and they want me to and it makes them happy. But inside it always feels like I'm playing pretend, like I'm participating in a game that's obviously not real.
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This isn't a deliberate thing. I'm not in the corner cackling like 'yes I will invalidate genderqueer experience I love being evil.' If the nonbinary person stopped seeming female to me in practical ways, then the game would start to feel real, and I'm 100% fine with that.
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I love the idea of a glorious transhumanist future where gender isn't real and we can switch back and forth and be whatever. I'm agender myself (or something?), very pro plastic surgery and hormones and whatever it takes to make people process you into the category you want.
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the insistence that you need to view people as they want to be seen even if it doesn't feel like something you can do or legitimately is at odds with your perception, is gaslightly and abusive and you are NOT a bad person if you can't feel the things they want you to feel
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Yes. If you look, sound, and act like a man, I'm going to perceive you as a man regardless of your actual gender. I can politely address you as you request, but perception is based on how you present.
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Expecting people to perceive things in a specific way is kinda Orwellian. That term is so overused but it fits.
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