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Polyamory is a choice for some people, but not all. I remember trying to feel bothered when I caught my first (monog) bf sexting someone else because i thought i was supposed to.. When I learned that polyamory was a thing I was like 'oh, that is obviously exactly what i am'. 1/

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Do you think you'd be different if it wasn't so easy to find partners. Like if you were unattractive, in a society with very few men, were a man, etc.

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If women had sex with the wide variety of partners available to them, then men would not have such difficulty finding sex. In general I have much less sex with other men than my male partners have had with other women.

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This isn't true. Optionality for women increases mating inequality. Combatting this impulse is precisely why religion and then civilization emerged... To moderate preferential attachment and increase participation in the institution of marriage.

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>>In general I have much less sex with other men than my male partners have had with other women. Please try to understand why this is evidence for exactly the opposite of the point you're trying to make.

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That stands to reason. You are going after the Alpha men who are able to have sex with anyone they choose. Thus they have no problem having more sex than you.

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I don't know about this. Maybe if women would have sex with unattractive and sexually unappealing men, then yes, but more than likely wouldn't they just be more willing to go after relatively attractive men? Isn't this what we see on tinder right now?

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Nope. They all end up fucking the same select group of guys. This actually increases inequality. You've just been with those guys because you're attractive.