Polyamory is a choice for some people, but not all. I remember trying to feel bothered when I caught my first (monog) bf sexting someone else because i thought i was supposed to.. When I learned that polyamory was a thing I was like 'oh, that is obviously exactly what i am'. 1/
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I've known I was poly for nearly a decade, and the entire time it's been 100%, no question, no doubt, not once. I'm not attracted to monogamous people. I can't imagine existing in a monogamous agreement. Polyamory feels like a deep and unchangeable part of me.
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For me, it's not a choice - it's not like someone chooses to try intermittent fasting, where it's a preference you can flip on and off depending on the mood or circumstance. It affects my sexual response, my automatic emotions. The thought of monogamy is intensely repulsive.
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Do you feel jealousy at all? Is deprivation a fear you can even relate too?
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oh yes i have definitely felt jealousy in romantic relationships, usually it's some deep part of my brain convinced that they'll leave me for the other person. But eventually, after seeing them not leave for long enough, the jealousy self-resolves.
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Do you think you'd be different if it wasn't so easy to find partners. Like if you were unattractive, in a society with very few men, were a man, etc.
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If women had sex with the wide variety of partners available to them, then men would not have such difficulty finding sex.
In general I have much less sex with other men than my male partners have had with other women.
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parents seem to report equally loving all their children
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Aella, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I personally have been struggling with this (very likely because of my environment). Would it be ok for me to ask a few questions. I just want to be exposed to different styles of thinking in an attempt to learn. Thank you
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In this context, does love require any resources to be consciously used/given by the person in love?
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