apparently the term is trademarked so don't they kinda get to define what it is?
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fuck trademarks
don’t be a lawcuck
words mean what they are commonly believed to mean by the speaker and the listener
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besides, the relevant point here is that if it is the case that circling institute practices a bad version of circling than judging circling based on the institute’s bad version both lacks nuance and sorta blinds you to potential benefits of good circling as practiced elsewhere
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the biggest first shift for me was discovering rationality. being introduced to techniques on how to think more clearly really leveled me up a lot.
The second shift was circling - specifically CE style surrendered leadership. It is *immensely* valuable to me
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and it's also kinda hard to describe how in
the same way it's hard to describe how rationality is useful on an intuitive or 'grokking' level.
It gave me the ability to become much more aware and ongoingly accepting of myself in connection with others
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which sounds maybe simple or elementary but i've been circling for 2 years and i'm still constantly learning important things about myself every time I do it
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also i am generally extremely allergic to all sort of hippie interpersonal feelings oriented stuff. I don't like authentic relating games, or anything structured, or any of those burn workshops where you feel into your body and pair up or whatever. I friggin hate that. willies.
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but circling *accepts* me hating that. I can loudly, aggressively, express how much I hate it, and I have total freedom to push back against any of it inside the circle. And I often do! It's weirdly the *safest* feeling activity I've done - it accepts all of me
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i feel like i should say, after hating on it, that i actually think circling is really good for the people it's good for, i have seen the positive emotional effects it can have, i just have an allergic reaction to it for reasons i can maybe semi-explain
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yea i also wanna say I don't think circling is for everyone, some ppl just don't jive with it, get it, enjoy it, or learn from it, and that's totally fine - it's vaguely similar to psychedelics imo.
but also interested in hearing the semi explanation
any structure designed to make me feel free and expressive typically makes me feel un-free and muted -- i understand social freedom to be not "no constraints" but "mutual understanding that constraint violation is fine, but they're still there to riff on and default to"
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