the flavor of my disgust is similar to my disgust with most ASMR but particularly ASMR that's intimacy-oriented
I've checked it out to see what the appeal is
blatant perversion of a real, good thing. fake cargo culting bullshit.
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also suspect that circling is a fucking *magnet* for the sneakiest kind of manipulative asshole
if I put myself into the shoes of someone in one of the videos I watched, I predict that I would feel cornered as hell
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again, mostly would be fighting intense pressure to not hurt feelings, in conflict with the desire to say the cruelest shit I could think of just to get a bit of the pressure off
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these feelings are also identical to the ones I had in the few kink (or heavily influenced by kink) social events I have been to
and also similar to the worst encounters I've had in church
fake fake fake manipulative ass shit
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it is mimicking a real and beautiful dynamic of interpersonal optionality and trust that I have with some of my closest friends and loved ones
but doing it in a way that makes my skin crawl
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this is one of the videos I watched
one girl in particular was the focus of much of the segment that I saw
how *anybody* looks at this and doesn't see tendrils of creeping social pressure and coercion winding through the room is fucking beyond me
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like do you just not see it?
do you not see the *pushing* and *grabbing* at her?
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it's not like I can't have the kind of intimate social dynamic I think they're Trying to get here
I have it with a few close friends, my spouse, and other loved ones
where this kind of reporting on the interactions and meta-interactions is possible and safe and good
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but this is not a type of interaction that is just....good all the time and with all people!
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if I ever do go to a circling event it will be to casually point out how people are being gross manipulative assholes at one another the entire time
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you can come to one of my circles and do just that (tho you'd have to own it; actively stating what other ppl are doing as fact is a no-go, but you can be like "I am utterly revolted by what i perceive to be manipulation and hearing you speak makes me want to self harm"
