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off to sort of 'get out' what they wanted to say. This can be great if done well and the person is interesting, and annoying if they don't. It's like they're giving a speech. Lately, I've been noticing that all the people I find to podium are men, and I'm reorienting to -

viewing podiuming as a masculine activity because of this. This is weird! But then I was listening to a lady talk and she was doing basically the same thing - taking up a lot of space, not "doing discourse", getting a lot of information off her chest, but the feel of it was-

really different. She mentioned emotions and sensations far more, she was careful and complimentary and a lot of her speech was much more positively valenced. She was talking about some way of interpersonally seeing the world. And I'm confused about a few things - one,

Why do I feel like podiuming is male, and that she wasn't podiuming, even though she was doing a lot of similar things? Podiuming usually annoys me. She also annoyed me a lot. I felt viscerally repulsed by her words.

@rothosphere

mentioned this sounded like archetypes -

they were both doing the same type of role (e.g., parent), but with extremely different directions (e.g., father/mother). Maybe it's just more infrequent for women to podium? Maybe my sample size is just really low so I'm tryin to spin patterns out of not enough data? -

Regardless, I've definitely started noticing more gender differences in conversational behavior lately. Men tend to be more aggressive/space taking, and women tend to... i'm having a lot of 'i don't like women's tendencies' feelings when writing this tweet rn. -

I think I feel much less safe around women. I think I anticipate they're more likely to kick me out of groups or not listen to what I say or make decisions based on interpersonal tides rather than something consistent. I wonder if this is true or just my own biases?

And I'm not just asking that question - I am legitimately open to this being my own biases. If you think it's actually true and not a bias thing I'd like to hear how you also seriously evaluated it being a bias yet came to the opposite conclusion.

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I feel like a similar development has happened but reversed - growing up being told by men that women are annoying, emotional, and can’t be taken seriously. But then I found that people with stances outside the pride of masculinity are always more compassionate and truth seeking