I'm tryin to figure something out so here's a bunch of words as I try to work through it: Sometimes, people talk in a group as though they are speaking a podcast at you; I call it 'podiuming'; they have interactions with you not to have a discourse, but rather as a bouncing-
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really different. She mentioned emotions and sensations far more, she was careful and complimentary and a lot of her speech was much more positively valenced. She was talking about some way of interpersonally seeing the world. And I'm confused about a few things - one,
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Why do I feel like podiuming is male, and that she wasn't podiuming, even though she was doing a lot of similar things? Podiuming usually annoys me. She also annoyed me a lot. I felt viscerally repulsed by her words.
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they were both doing the same type of role (e.g., parent), but with extremely different directions (e.g., father/mother). Maybe it's just more infrequent for women to podium? Maybe my sample size is just really low so I'm tryin to spin patterns out of not enough data? -
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Regardless, I've definitely started noticing more gender differences in conversational behavior lately. Men tend to be more aggressive/space taking, and women tend to... i'm having a lot of 'i don't like women's tendencies' feelings when writing this tweet rn. -
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I think I feel much less safe around women. I think I anticipate they're more likely to kick me out of groups or not listen to what I say or make decisions based on interpersonal tides rather than something consistent. I wonder if this is true or just my own biases?
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And I'm not just asking that question - I am legitimately open to this being my own biases. If you think it's actually true and not a bias thing I'd like to hear how you also seriously evaluated it being a bias yet came to the opposite conclusion.
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isn't it because when men do it they're usually trying to advertise their abilities/knowledge and explain things, and women are more just telling you how they feel about things?
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