If you want people to change, you have to give them an out. When they give an apology, accept it. When they show signs of changing their mind, give them praise. When they do good, respond with warmth. If you don't give people a way to become better then they will never be better.
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co-signed. so many people are needlessly cruel, often because it's all they know, or they feel compelled to pay it forward, and it perpetuates the cycle. if praise seems a bridge too far, even "don't punish people for doing what you want them to do" makes a difference
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What y’all are saying is wonderful, and I’m thinking about it all in the context of this quote:
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And confront them, hold them to, if you can to not let them get away with bad behaviour.
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"When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard."-- Sun Tzu.
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Funny, I was thinking earlier today that if you make it too easy to not change, they probably won't. Also true.
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This feels like don't take abused temporal power away from habitually antisocial sociopaths. We can do things you mention minus praise; it's a very different beast and even more of a beast when one moves through life realizing they won't lose anything if they pretend-good enough.
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What do I do when they accuse me of being a paedophile because I don’t support Trump?
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