what's a narrative currently popular among your ingroup that you personally don't buy?
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just like your cope that puritanism will ever be cool :P she's wrong but so are you
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Oh I did not see that she was replying to you, I thought she was endorsing the above, not counter-signaling it. Mea culpa
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I think, knowing Aella, that she is endorsing the statement in her tweet. But yes technically she should have worded it differently considering what she was responding to.
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no i think monogamy is flat-out worse (or rather; a coping mechanism based on unresolved insecurity) than polyamory
I love you for being the type of person who believes this, but I also think you're flat wrong
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and you're underrating people's revealed preferences :P
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There may be a certain social/intellectual class of nerdy rationalists for whom poly is fundamentally better, but if you give poly to the masses it turns into a horror show.
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Worse for what?
I don't think monogamy and polygamy are different approaches to the same thing, but rather drastically distinct things. Doing monogamy polygamously and polygamy monogamously, however, suck exactly equally
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idk i view having kids as like 'starting a company' - you agree with someone to commit to working on an external project.
And this just requires both people give enough attention to prioritizing kids, it doesn't mean you have to forbid extrarelationship interactions.
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is there a reason you think monogamy is more cope for insecurity than poly? ive definitely seen (& been) poly for reasons that were clearly insecurity cope. "im not sure im good enough not to be cheated on/left if we were mono, but maybe s/he'll say if s/he can be w other ppl"
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Are we including open relationships in polyamory? Because I’m not sure about poly, but I do think open relationships are superior to monogamous ones
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